Today is the day that the web’s first Social Self Help Network is officially opening its doors and rolling out the welcome mat, and we couldn’t be more excited! We hope you’ll join us by becoming acquainted with My3Goals and start benefitting from its wonderful features. We’ve just started our private beta trial period, so take this opportunity to be a part of the initial community. Since it’s a private beta, you’ll need the following information:
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My3Goals is a place where you can access a community of friends and experts who are ready and willing to help you with any questions you have, or problems you may be struggling with, and a place where you can share your own life lessons with others. My3Goals combines aspects of other social networks with self-help, so you can build a true community of friends that are always there to offer support. In fact, My3Goals is integrated with Twitter, which means that from the get-go you’ll have a built-in network of friends to turn to and share with, and you can easily build that community by adding friends on the My3Goals site. In the future, we’ll be integrated with Facebook as well!
If you have an issue that you think would be better answered by someone outside of your circle, never fear; My3Goals gives you access to experts in life coaching who are waiting for your questions and can offer impartial, professional advice. Whether your questions are focused specifically on one problem, or more generally in one our Life Categories (Mind, Body, Spirituality, Relationships, Career, and Money), you can easily find the help you need to tackle whatever issues you face.
The site is easy to navigate and easy to personalize. Users can create their own profile where they share information about themselves with others, and each user has access to the three main tools that can get you started: Goals, Challenges, and Answers. You can set your own Goals, or join others’, whether long or short term, which will keep you motivated and working towards a positive achievement. You can also take on weekly Challenges, which are fun and inspirational dares that are aimed to improve your quality of life. Joining Goals and Challenges with friends is an excellent way to stay motivated and offer each other support. In the Answers section, you can ask a question that has been on your mind, and offer up your own wisdom in response to others’ questions. It’s a true community, and you will immediately feel like you are part of it.
So poke around, try out the different features, and take the initiative to start working towards your best self! Good luck, and see you there!
Best regards,
Aaron Dillon
Chief Community Officer
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I’ve seen this question posted quite often on all kinds of Q&A sites. Users’ answers vary greatly and most are personal opinion. In these opinions there is a lot of wisdom, regardless the answer. I’d like to take a different approach: allow me to answer this age old question based on what scientific research has to say about happiness.
Renowned Stanford researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky has studied happiness in scientifically rigorous ways for about 20 years now. She is one of the top researchers on happiness and one of many modern psychologists whose research furthers the field of positive psychology; that is, the study of human strengths (and concepts such as happiness, resilience, etc.) as opposed to traditional psychology which focuses almost entirely on negative human aspects (mental disorders, brain disease, cognitive deficits, etc.).
Lyubomirsky, who originally believed that money made people happier, was forced to change her opinion on the matter after countless psychological interventions with participants and exhaustive research on the matter. Her research has help weed out common assumptions from fact, and she has found that having more money does not make a person substantially happier. To start, humans have a genetic happiness “set-point” that determines about 50% of their base level day-to-day happiness. We operate from that set point and believe it or not, life circumstances (rich-poor, healthy-unhealthy, beautiful-plain, etc.) play a role of only about 10% of our total happiness. There are of course significant traumatic events that can, if severe enough or chronic enough, alter a person’s brain structure or neurochemistry and change their happiness set-point or make it more difficult for them to sustain happiness. Also significant positive experiences such as birth of a child or marriage have a stronger effect on happiness.
With regards to money, even when people get more, better, and fancier luxuries, a natural human phenomenon known as hedonic adaptation occurs. Have you ever walked into a room and smelled something foul, but within minutes you can’t even smell it anymore? That’s because your olfactory senses (smell) became habituated to the odor. Hedonic adaptation works in a similar manner, in that the material pleasures that you acquire or experience can boost your mood and change your state of mind for a little bit, but all those nice things slowly lose their short and long term positive effect on you in the future. It’s as if the pleasure center of your brain becomes “spoiled”.
It is well known in modern psychological literature that money is correlated with happiness to a certain point. Money can improve ones life circumstances drastically, and quality of life is definitely correlated with happiness. However, at the point at which all of a person’s basic human needs (food & water, shelter & safety, social connection of some kind) are met, money ceases to influence happiness altogether. That is, as long as you make enough money to take care of you and your family’s needs, it wouldn’t matter if you made $50,000 a year or $50,000,000 a year.
In light of this research, the only way that I can see money actually buying happiness would be to spend it on doing the things researchers have found that the happiest people do (although most of these don’t have a dollar value):
- Devote time to your family & friends.
- Become comfortable with expressing your gratitude for all you have.
- Become accustomed to lending a helping hand.
- Practice optimism when imagining your future.
- Savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment (not worrying about the future or the past).
- Make physical exercise and a proper diet a habit.
- Create a social support network of healthy friends and family (and be a part of others’ social support).
- Stay committed to the things you value the most.
- Last but not least, remember that everyone (including the happiest of people) has their share of stress or poor circumstances, but it the poise and strength you show in coping in the face of these challenges that matters.
I’ll close by quoting Dr. Lyubomirsky who said that, “happiness, more than anything, is a state of mind, a way of perceiving the world in which we reside.”
I hope I’ve provided you with another angle from which to look at this subject.
All the best,
Aaron Dillon
MyLifePassport.com
agdillon.net
P.S. Also see the book below by Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology.
1) “The How of Happiness” (2007) by Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D.
2) “Authentic Happiness” (2002) by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D.