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- Silvia Johnson

During this time of giving and gratitude it’s important to consider why you might incorporate this way of being into your business and your personal life.  We have been taught from a young age to say “thank you” and to give unselfishly, but as we grow up, we forget the “why” behind the act. The following are updated reminders as to why you would want to incorporate gratitude and giving back into your life. Take a moment to read through the list. Once you are done, pull out a piece of paper to jot down when and where you might incorporate these ways of being.

1. Telling an employee that you are grateful for what they do, or share with them a simple “thank you” for something they accomplished. This act will boost them up causing them to be more engaged and feel connected to the business.  It will also help establish you as a trustworthy leader that actually sees how they contribute.
2. Gratitude and giving back are hot topics covered by all the great entrepreneurs throughout time.  If you study the most successful entrepreneurs in history you will see a pattern emerge: giving back to the community and showing gratitude for their customers. Even top entrepreneurs today talk about gratitude and giving back as a must in their lives and businesses. Each and every one believes that time and money must be set aside to give back and that the practice of being grateful for what they currently have allows them to expand in a way so that they can receive more in their life and business.
3. During the Fall/Winter months it’s good to know that gratitude also helps to boost the immune system.  At the HeartMath Insititue studies show that in addition to relieving stress, five minutes of gratitude boosted immune systems for over 24hours.

We all know that gratitude and giving back feels good, but hopefully now you have a few more reasons why you might want to do each.

- Silvia Johnson

Fall is here, change is upon us and it is time to launch something new. Kids are going back to school and families are having to readjust their schedules to the new flow of things.  As we delve into a new pattern of work and life, it often seems that these are times of reflection and considering what’s next.

I’ve personally been looking at ways that I can leverage my time and be able to share my skills in a bigger way.  As I sat, reflecting on why I had left the corporate world, it dawned on me.  Ultimately I left because I was having to lay people off, and to me that felt like I was crushing people’s dreams instead of helping them create them.  It was so emotionally draining and painful for me, that I just had to escape, and escape I did.

In fact after the wedding and finishing up a few more classes I dove into growing my business.  Within a few months I had three consulting gigs and a dozen private coaching clients.  I was so excited to see it all happening and I was grateful to be “one of the lucky ones” bringing in money in this economy. I continued to grow and transform my business, then one day I had an epiphany, where all the puzzle pieces fell into place and I came full circle.

In order to give back the dream to those who have been effected by lay offs, it was time I gave back in a BIG way.  And so, the “3 Simple Secrets to 6 Figures Outside the Cubicle” was born.  A *FREE* teleseminar aimed at anyone who believes there is another way to be successful in this world.  Click on the link to find a description of what it is and how to sign up. Even if it doesn’t sound like it’s for you, sign up anyway as it will give you a different perspective to the world around you.

I know I’m here to make a difference in my own way, and this teleseminar will take me one step closer to fulfilling my mission.  What’s your mission? What are you meant to do in the world?

All the best,

Silvia

- Silvia Johnson

I escaped!!  I left my J – O – B a little over a year ago.  It was pretty scary, but I did it!!  Some might think that was stupid, I think it was genius!!

Am I living better than ever before?  Am I doing things I enjoy doing?  Oh Yeah !! Do I regret my decision for leaving?  Hell No !! If I hadn’t left when I did, I may have ended up one of those other bitter “professionals” handcuffed to a great company that would suck the life out of me no matter what I did to balance my life.

So what lead to my great escape?  There were a number of things that got me to where I am now.

1. Digging deep for what mattered to me the most.
2. Creating a strong support system in my life which included people that said “yes you can” instead of “no you can’t”
3. Changing some gnarly limiting and conflicting thoughts.
4. Setting an awesome vision for what was possible in my life.
5. Education galore!

After all the deep work and 6 months of recovering from the corporate world, I arrived!!  The real me finally opened up her eyes and said – “Here I am, it’s time to live it up!”

So I say to all out there who have the golden handcuffs on that it IS possible to escape!   And if as you read this you’re thinking:

• It’s impossible for me to replace my current income.
• I don’t have the money.
• I’m only doing this until the stock vests goes up/goes public.
• I don’t have someone to support me.
• I like the steady paycheck.
• It’s really not that bad.
• I can’t get paid “real” money doing what I enjoy.
• I’m not good at anything else.
• It’s too hard to learn something new.

or any other number of stories that tell you – “you can’t do anything but what you are doing today.” Those stories are the only thing keeping you from escaping.  Yes, that’s right, you are the one that’s keeping yourself oppressed.

So, I challenge you to consider – What if the story you are telling yourself is untrue?  What if anything were possible for you?  What would you dare to dream?

- Silvia Johnson

A friend of mine and I were chatting about getting married.  Having been through my own nuptial planning not long ago, I was greatly aware of the pressure brides feel to manage a lot of moving parts, and the opinions of family and friends.  In addition to planning a wedding, she had a lot of other big life changes that she was dealing with as well.  As many folks across the country, she was faced with being out of a job.  To add to the pressure, she and her fiance made the decision to move in together to save costs.  Well, this relieved one kind of stress, but it added a new one, the fact that she hadn’t lived with anybody for years.

As we talked about all the life changes she was facing, and she also mentioned that there were so many things that were setting her off and this was frustrating her even more.  Hearing the tension in her voice, I said to her – “Jane, you are not yourself right now.  Give yourself a break.  With the amount of change in your life, you are going to be acting in ways that are not ‘normal’ for you.  When anyone is placed in a position of high change and high stress, we all act a little abnormal.”  As if a light bulb had gone off, she said, in a much lighter tone – “You are right!  I have been under a lot of change and stress, and that must be why things I thought I had taken care of are creeping back in.”   She was so relieved to realize that the game had changed temporarily, and that meant new rules to maintain a certain amount of stability within herself and her relationship.

The thing to note here is that it is not just the number of changes/pressures you are dealing with, it can be the intensity that may set you off into a pattern of behavior that is not your “standard”.  If you ever find yourself acting out in ways you thought you had resolved with a relationship or in ways that are unusual to you, spend some time assessing your life and where your energy is going.  Decide, based on that, what “rules” may need to change for you, including things you may need to “let go of” permanently or temporarily.  Also, make a list of those stand-bys that give you energy and make sure you are giving yourself an added dose to help you move forward in a productive way.  In no time things will evolve and stabilize, helping you move forward in even better and more fulfilling ways!!

- Silvia Johnson

Isn’t it interesting how we all start the new year feeling great about the possibilities. It seems to be one of the only times during the year that we give ourselves the chance to wipe the slate clean. Like the heroine from Anne of Green Gables, Anne Shirley said, “Tomorrow is fresh with no mistakes in it!”

I like that quote because that’s how it feels to me. Every day is a day to explore and to start fresh. Often times the way we begin our day is what dictates how it will go. Days where we wake up feeling fresh and happy tend to go smoothly and easily. While days where we wake up on the “wrong side” of the bed, there is no end to the mishaps and troubles that await us. So how do you ensure you have more good days than bad? It’s all about managing your mindset, below are a few tips to help you get into the right mindset!

1. Center yourself – whether you do this via meditation or deep breathing, finding your center will help you focus your attention and increase your energy.

2. Set Intent – take a moment to set your intent for the day. By setting intent you are establishing “how” you  want the day to be and therefore creating the right state of mind to make sure it happens.

3. Gratitude – make a list (verbal or written) of what you are currently grateful for. Gratitude impacts your state of mind and according to research conducted by the Institute of Heart Math, it also boosts your immune system. 

Over the next week, start your day with these 3 simple steps and notice how your days change for the better.

I picked up this technique from a master coach I’m working with, who is helping me as I aim to gain my own master coach certification. It is a technique I have used with a number of clients and for myself.

Sometimes I walk through each question, other times I pick and chose based on their state and the particular problem they are having. Try it out the next time you feel you or a friend, colleague or client has reached their own perceived impasse.

1. What’s great about this problem?

2. What’s not perfect yet?

3. What am I willing to do to get it perfect?

4. What am in not willing to do to get it perfect?

5. How can I enjoy the process?

I guarantee if you ask these questions you will find yourself with a different mindset and state of being by the end.

What are you willing to do to move from floating like a feather in the wind to flying like a bird using the wind to get you to your final destination?

- Silvia Johnson

Isn’t it interesting how we all start the new year feeling great about the possibilities. It seems to be one of the only times during the year that we give ourselves the chance to wipe the slate clean. Like the heroine from Anne of Green Gables, Anne Shirley said, “Tomorrow is fresh with no mistakes in it!”

I like that quote because that’s how it feels to me. Every day is a day to explore and to start fresh. Often times the way we begin our day is what dictates how it will go. Days where we wake up feeling fresh and happy tend to go smoothly and easily. While days where we wake up on the “wrong side” of the bed, there is no end to the mishaps and troubles that await us. So how do you ensure you have more good days than bad? It’s all about managing your mindset, below are a few tips to help you get into the right mindset!

1. Center yourself – whether you do this via meditation or deep breathing, finding your center will help you focus your attention and increase your energy.

2. Set Intent – take a moment to set your intent for the day. By setting intent you are establishing “how” you  want the day to be and therefore creating the right state of mind to make sure it happens.

3. Gratitude – make a list (verbal or written) of what you are currently grateful for. Gratitude impacts your state of mind and according to research conducted by the Institute of Heart Math, it also boosts your immune system. 

Over the next week, start your day with these 3 simple steps and notice how your days change for the better.

All the Best,
Silvia Johnson

- Silvia Johnson

I picked up this technique from a master coach I’m working with, who is helping me as I aim to gain my own master coach certification. It is a technique I have used with a number of clients and for myself.

Sometimes I walk through each question, other times I pick and chose based on their state and the particular problem they are having. Try it out the next time you feel you or a friend, colleague or client has reached their own perceived impasse.

1. What’s great about this problem?
2. What’s not perfect yet?
3. What am I willing to do to get it perfect?
4. What am in not willing to do to get it perfect?
5. How can I enjoy the process?

I guarantee if you ask these questions you will find yourself with a different mindset and state of being by the end.

What are you willing to do to move from floating like a feather in the wind to flying like a bird using the wind to get you to your final destination?

- Silvia Johnson

Our core beliefs are those we’ve formed in our early childhood. Most are created by the time we are seven years old, with a few more developed around adolescence. As we develop these beliefs, we have an extremely limited view of the world and of ourselves. We tend to take on the beliefs of our parents or of other significant adults in our lives. In addition, we make judgments about what we hold to be true based on our limited view of the world.

Many of these beliefs serve us well as we grow into adulthood. Beliefs such as being kind to others, having integrity, or even having a strong work ethic can help us live as happy and productive members of society. However, there are other beliefs that truly limit us and therefore what we are capable of accomplishing.

These beliefs limit us by filtering the information that supports them, thus proving that they are in fact true. Often times they are core to us and as such seem so real and unshakable, we often don’t call them into question. There are many techniques to find and change limiting beliefs or to enhance empowering beliefs. Below are a few questions to tackle the former.

To begin uncovering limiting beliefs, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What is an “I can’t” statement I say to myself?
2. What must be true for me to say that?
3. How do I know this is true?

To begin loosening the limiting belief, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What positive purpose has holding this belief served?
2. Is this belief always true for you? For others?
3. How would you know, even before you had physical evidence, that this belief had already changed?

Jot down your answers in a journal, or mull them over during a walk. Do whatever it takes to answer these questions honestly, the more you do, the better the results.

By Silvia Johnson

So often we have big dreams. We dream of owning our own property, changing jobs, or just doing something different with our life.  Often as we dream big and start feeling good about the possibilities, we begin to get disrupted by our inner critic. The critic tells us it is all impossible, that we can’t, we are incapable, or that it will never be.

Often times we agree with the critic, referring to it as the thing that keeps us “real” or “grounded”.  But, do we need to succumb to the inner critic? To allow it to rule our lives and dreams? Perhaps not. First you need to take a moment to assess whether the inner critic is hindering or helping you, because if it is not, then it is time to let it go!

So how do you fight your own critical voice? That’s just it, you don’t! The key is to learn how to integrate it so that it is in alignment with the rest of you, not in conflict with your other thoughts and actions. There are many ways of letting go or integrating the inner critic, below is an extremely effective way of doing this:

1.    Acknowledge that the inner critic is there.

2.    Find out what the intent of the critic is, to know its purpose is to acknowledge the reason it exists.

3.    Create an action plan that incorporates the critic’s purpose.

For example, you have an inner critic that tells you “You can’t make money by following your dream”. You first acknowledge that it is there, and then ask, “What is your purpose or intent by saying that?” By asking this question you find that your inner critic’s purpose is to keep you financially secure. Knowing this, you then decide to put together a plan to ensure financial security while you pursue your dream.By putting a financial plan together, you fulfill the inner critic’s purpose in a way that is integrated with you and your dream instead of in conflict.

The more in harmony you are with all parts of you, the more you will accomplish. Try it out. You may be surprised with what you find!

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