Today is the day that the web’s first Social Self Help Network is officially opening its doors and rolling out the welcome mat, and we couldn’t be more excited! We hope you’ll join us by becoming acquainted with My3Goals and start benefitting from its wonderful features. We’ve just started our private beta trial period, so take this opportunity to be a part of the initial community. Since it’s a private beta, you’ll need the following information:
Visit us here: beta.mylifepassport.com
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My3Goals is a place where you can access a community of friends and experts who are ready and willing to help you with any questions you have, or problems you may be struggling with, and a place where you can share your own life lessons with others. My3Goals combines aspects of other social networks with self-help, so you can build a true community of friends that are always there to offer support. In fact, My3Goals is integrated with Twitter, which means that from the get-go you’ll have a built-in network of friends to turn to and share with, and you can easily build that community by adding friends on the My3Goals site. In the future, we’ll be integrated with Facebook as well!
If you have an issue that you think would be better answered by someone outside of your circle, never fear; My3Goals gives you access to experts in life coaching who are waiting for your questions and can offer impartial, professional advice. Whether your questions are focused specifically on one problem, or more generally in one our Life Categories (Mind, Body, Spirituality, Relationships, Career, and Money), you can easily find the help you need to tackle whatever issues you face.
The site is easy to navigate and easy to personalize. Users can create their own profile where they share information about themselves with others, and each user has access to the three main tools that can get you started: Goals, Challenges, and Answers. You can set your own Goals, or join others’, whether long or short term, which will keep you motivated and working towards a positive achievement. You can also take on weekly Challenges, which are fun and inspirational dares that are aimed to improve your quality of life. Joining Goals and Challenges with friends is an excellent way to stay motivated and offer each other support. In the Answers section, you can ask a question that has been on your mind, and offer up your own wisdom in response to others’ questions. It’s a true community, and you will immediately feel like you are part of it.
So poke around, try out the different features, and take the initiative to start working towards your best self! Good luck, and see you there!
Best regards,
Aaron Dillon
Chief Community Officer
beta@mylifepassport.com
- Scott Shute
A few years ago we got a quote from three different carpenters to build a built-in entertainment center in our living room. It wasn’t supposed to be anything fancy, just a place to put the TV, stereo, and all the junk that goes with it.
The first guy came and offered to do the job for $10,000. I nearly had a heart attack. Guy #2 bid on the job for $2,500. Now I was really confused. As much as I thought the first guy was trying to rip us off, I thought maybe the 2nd guy wasn’t qualified because he was so much cheaper. Guy #3 offered to do it for $5,400. In the end we went with our gut instincts and found the solution that fit our needs.
People have the same confusion about the costs of coaching. Coaches themselves are even confused. Part of the challenge is that there are so many types of coaches out there. From general life coaching to very specific niche marketing, the topics run the gamut. Coaches also come from a variety of backgrounds. Many come from the world of psychology, but there are wonderful coaches with backgrounds as teachers, cops, business people, human resources executives, physical therapists, chiropractors, etc…
I’ve seen pricing as low as $50/hr for life coaches just starting out to executive coaches that work on retainer for $40k/year. So, when you’re looking for a coach, what should you pay?
Before answering that, consider this. Let’s say you want help from a coach to create a better marriage between you and your spouse. What’s it worth to you to not get divorced? Or what would it be worth to you to get out of your own way and have better self esteem? Or to lose 10 pounds? Ultimately, no matter the goal, what’s a better life worth?
Then consider the likelihood that the coach you’re considering using can help you get there. Nearly every coach offers an introductory session to see if the two of you are a good fit. Use that time to get a feel for their skill level. Follow your gut.
Ok, but really, what should it cost? Here are some very rough guidelines
* Life Coaching – $125 – $175/hr is typical. More for a very experienced coach with a great reputation and background. Less for someone starting out or with less relevant experience.
* Business Coaching – $250-350/hr when working at the Director/VP level. More when working with C-Level staff, less if working at the manager level.
In all cases, consider your ROI (Return On Investment). Set clear goals. Show up and be willing to make the tough changes.
What’s it worth to you to reach your goals?
- Jane Cavanaugh
Move Toward Desire to Reach Your Goal
I woke up one day with 15 pounds on me that had never been there before. Do you know this one? I know I was there every day while it happened, but somehow it snuck up on me and I was living in a body that didn’t seem to be my own. I missed myself.
Suddenly I was faced with the mountain of advice and struggle that so many people I know go through every day. For the past year I too have struggled to pick out what might work best for me and give it a try. No results. A lot of money spent. A litany of reasons why I couldn’t work out today, why I couldn’t make more changes in my diet.
And then one day I cracked the code.
“Was it diet or exercise?” a friend asked me excitedly, sure that the answer was in one of these pillars of weight loss strategies. The answer is neither. It is my mind, my internal state that has changed. It gives me free, easy access to both eating and living in a spontaneous state of actually craving what works best for me. I have effortlessly lost ten pounds and know that the next five to ten pounds will be just as much fun. Yes, I did just use that word: fun.
Here are two critical things I do differently:
* Instead of looking in the mirror every day thinking “What a disaster!” and noticing how big I felt, I hold a vision inside me of the body I want. It’s more than just a picture in my mind. I actually imagine feeling that body, as if I had it already. “Be the change you want,” I tell myself. “Your body is getting lighter, stronger, and healthier every day.”
* Instead of wrestling with myself every day about how I “should work out”, I set intention for wanting to do some kind of exercise or movement every day, then followed my natural desire. I ask myself, “What do I feel like doing today?” On days when I feel tired, it’s walking or yoga. On days when I have energy, I find I actually want to do something more active like a cardio routine, bike ride, or weights. I give myself permission to do even a few minutes of something.
As I focus on my desire, I am delighted to find that my body is now craving better food and more movement. I am no longer fighting myself, I am working with my natural desire and making progress continues to be effortless.
http://www.change-artist.com/
- Scott Shute
A coach is there to help us live the life we really want.
A traditional sports coach is there to help an athlete fine tune their game to perfection. In the same way, a life coach helps fine tune a person’s approach to life.
In the high stakes world of professional sports, virtually every top competitor works with a coach. Even Tiger Woods, the most dominant golfer of this generation, still works with a coach. Of course Tiger knows how to play the game, probably better than anyone on the planet. In a match versus his coach, Tiger would win nearly every time. So what benefit does he get from a coach? Tiger’s coach is there to pick up on things that Tiger himself can’t see. The coach is there to bounce ideas off of. He’s there to challenge Tiger, perhaps to push him further than he would push himself naturally.
All the same traits are true of a life coach. Of course we all know how to live. We’ve made it this far, right? How many of us can say that we are living perfect lives? Or that we are living to our full potential? A life coach is there to ask us questions that we might not think of ourselves, to challenge the patterns and approaches that we’ve established. A coach is there to listen to our dreams and cheer us on. A coach is there to shine a light on our way of doing things to say “Is that really what you want”
What would life be like if all of us had a coach?