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Oct
29

- Jane Cavanaugh

Move Toward Desire to Reach Your Goal

I woke up one day with 15 pounds on me that had never been there before. Do you know this one? I know I was there every day while it happened, but somehow it snuck up on me and I was living in a body that didn’t seem to be my own. I missed myself.

Suddenly I was faced with the mountain of advice and struggle that so many people I know go through every day. For the past year I too have struggled to pick out what might work best for me and give it a try. No results. A lot of money spent. A litany of reasons why I couldn’t work out today, why I couldn’t make more changes in my diet.

And then one day I cracked the code.

“Was it diet or exercise?” a friend asked me excitedly, sure that the answer was in one of these pillars of weight loss strategies. The answer is neither. It is my mind, my internal state that has changed. It gives me free, easy access to both eating and living in a spontaneous state of actually craving what works best for me. I have effortlessly lost ten pounds and know that the next five to ten pounds will be just as much fun. Yes, I did just use that word: fun.

Here are two critical things I do differently:

* Instead of looking in the mirror every day thinking “What a disaster!” and noticing how big I felt, I hold a vision inside me of the body I want. It’s more than just a picture in my mind. I actually imagine feeling that body, as if I had it already. “Be the change you want,” I tell myself. “Your body is getting lighter, stronger, and healthier every day.”

* Instead of wrestling with myself every day about how I “should work out”, I set intention for wanting to do some kind of exercise or movement every day, then followed my natural desire. I ask myself, “What do I feel like doing today?” On days when I feel tired, it’s walking or yoga. On days when I have energy, I find I actually want to do something more active like a cardio routine, bike ride, or weights. I give myself permission to do even a few minutes of something.

As I focus on my desire, I am delighted to find that my body is now craving better food and more movement. I am no longer fighting myself, I am working with my natural desire and making progress continues to be effortless.

http://www.change-artist.com/

Oct
17

- Scott Shute

Topics that coaches work with range from relationships and communication issues, health and fitness (weight loss is a huge one), to specific topics like starting a new business or managing personal finances more effectively.  To help attract clients, most coaches have developed very specific niches.

Regardless of the topic, there are usually very similar underlying issues that get in people’s way.  Here are a few examples

Top 4 great reasons to hire a coach

1. “I’m stuck and I’m not sure what to do next.”

Sometimes we’re just too close to it.  We’re wrapped up in the emotion, the drama, and the details.  It can be overwhelming

A coach acts as a neutral third party who can easily see through the fog and help us map out what success looks like for us

2. “I know what to do….I just can’t get myself to do it.”

We’ve all been there.  We already know the answer.  Take weight loss.  The equation for losing weight is extraordinarily simple:  burn off more calories than you consume.  So…why is it so freakin’ hard?!!!

A coach can help us determine what really, truly motivates us, then guide us through developing a plan that centers on that motivation and helps us build positive, lasting patterns that get us what we want.

3. “I need to make a decision, but I’m conflicted.”

We are often stuck between two choices.  They’re both so much a part of us that we feel them in our bones!  We even use language that says so….  “On the one hand I want to spend more time painting, because that’s what I really love.  On the other hand, I really need to focus on my day job because I need to pay my bills”

A coach can help us work out what’s really important to us about each choice and help develop a plan to get what we want.

4.  I’m trying lots of things, but I’m still not getting what I want

Paddling really fast with our oar out of the water doesn’t do much except make us tired.

A coach can help us see the impact of our actions and can help us get out of our own way.

Have any other favorite reasons to hire a coach?  Let me know.